My 4 year old grandson has been asking me lately, ” who are your parents?” When I explain to him who they are and that they have both died, his response is “why”?
I have a wonderful book that my brother Kelly gave me for Christmas a couple of years ago that a cousin had put together about my grandparents. Nyxon had seen the book, and started asking me a lot of questions about my parents and my grandma and grandpa. I was showing him in this fun book the pictures of my grandmother, grandfather, my mother and my father. He had so many questions about them and where they are. I have explained to him many times that my grandma and grandpa and my mother and father have died and that I’m an orphan. He then proceeded to ask me what an orphan is which I proceeded to explain to him. He has asked me about being an orphan many times , and we have had some fun discussions. Now you would think that a 4 year old wouldn’t be bothered by such a topic, but this sweet boy has so many questions. So our last conversation about me being an orphan and not having a mom or dad was kind of funny.
Nyxon: “Who’s going to be your mommy and daddy”?
Me: “Well, I’m big now and have my own family that I am a mommy too.”
Nyxon: “Well, you can have my mommy and daddy for your parents, and Grandma Shauna can be your grandma (this is his grandma on his moms side) then you will have some and you won’t be an orphan.”
Children have a simple solution to everything. In his simple yet hard working mind, he figured it all out. He hasn’t asked any questions lately, so he may just think he has solved my “problem”.
I love that he asks lots of questions. I love that he thinks things through. I love that he tries to find a solution so nothing is missing or out of place. I hope he always uses his mind to find solutions to problems along his way.